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You know, I don’t think fathers get enough credit for their job in the homes and for all of the things that they can contribute to their families. I know it today’s world, there is such a strong push for “woman power” and “I am a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man to be happy” kind of lifestyle. Well, even if you don’t need a husband to be happy, I think that you should know the important role that husbands and, more specifically, fathers play in the lives of their children. Because all of the things they can do, will truly shock you.
“Fathers who are actively involved in their childrens’ lives contribute to their emotional health, overall wellness, social development, and self respect”. (The Father and His Role in Child Development, Lynn pg. 1) Yes, you did read that right. WHAT?! How amazing is that? Why don’t you read that one more time to let that sink in. Now do you think that fathers may not be that important in the lives of their children? Let’s talk about how dad helps in the development of a child with these 4 points that I brought out at the beginning of this paragraph.
Emotional Health: It’s fun to go out in public and see a dad throwing their kid into the air, or see home videos where the dad is wrestling with the kids. A lot of times moms will sit back and smile and roll their eyes as they watch this. But, the fathers are doing so much more. Rough and tumble play helps in the development of the prefrontal cortex in the brain. This part of your brain helps with emotional regulation. While the dad is playing with the children, he is helping develop that part of their brain so that when they get older, they will know how to control their emotions better. This is especially seen in young men. The chances of an adolescent male getting depression are much higher without a dad in the home.
Social Development: If you want to destroy a person’s life, deprive them of their social interaction and showing them love. Our brains are wired to connect. We want to be with people and have that social connection. How do dad’s help with this? Fathers are largely responsible for the child’s verbal development. HOW NEAT IS THAT? Fathers are also responsible for getting a child involved in sports and clubs and other social activities that are crucial to the child’s development 🙂
Self Respect: Studies have shown that teenage girls are more likely to become pregnant and become involved in prostitution without a father in the home. That breaks my heart. How could a daughter ever learn what it feels like to be truly loved by a man without having a father there to teach it to her when she is young and to show her how a boy is supposed to treat her when he isn’t there to treat her mother right? Fathers, please stay for your daughter’s sake.
Overall Wellness: Go back and read all of the points that I have briefly discussed. Does this not sound like fathers contribute to the overall wellness of their children? It sounds pretty important to me.
I want to add one more important role that fathers have to this list. Loving Their Child’s Mother: How could a child ever learn the importance of love and of relationships without experiencing first hand how relationships are supposed to be? I think it is truly important that children see the father love and respect his wife and fight for his family. That will give them hope for a better future.
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My father was the most amazing dad I could have ever asked for. He made sure to do all of these things listed above. He did this for every single one of his children. He made sure to come to our sporting events, he made sure to tell us how much he loved us. He wrestled with us and threw us in the air. He taught us how to love ourselves because of how he loved us. He taught us about what we deserved in life because of how he treated us. I am so grateful for my relationship with my dad and I know that I would not live the life I do right now without having had him in my home.
My husband and I have set goals for how we want to be involved in our childrens’ lives and how we always want to make sure we are there for them, but we have specifically talked about how important his relationship is going to be with those children. These are very personal goals that we have set and so I don’t want to share them on here, but I know that if we work to fulfill those goals, the lives of our children will change and they will be blessed. So will we.